Overcoming Social Anxiety. Part 3

As we said before that if there is no pain there will be no gain. If you don’t suffer or experience the pain of overcoming social anxiety you’ll never be that social person you truely want to be. And today we’re going to talk about another idea that I believe in and that I hope it can help you in any way to become what you want. And this idea is :

 

N° 3 Believe in yourself.

Did anyone tell you you can’t do something, when you were young, and you believed them without even trying it first. Did it happen to you ? You know why ? because when we were young we easily belive what others, parents, relatives or teachers, tell us obout ourselves or about certain things in life. We belived them because they are aged and we thought that they are experienced and knowledgeable even if what they told us is completely false because we took them as right facts. As small kids we tend to believe everything we hear.

I want to talk to you about believing in one’s self because you don’t become what you want. You become what you BELIEVE. If you want to change you may or may not, but if you believe you can change Iam sure you will.

   Most people people want to become more social but deep inside them they don’t believe they can do it, they can’t believe themselves becoming who they want to be. Something withing them prevents them of taking that leap of faith, something keeps them discounting themselves. They may say “I know how to overcome social anxiety, or I know how to overcome any challenge in my life, but I don’t feel like I can do it.“  They depend on their feelings to decide what to do next, the same as you. You have an inner conflict as they do. You know how to overcome social anxiety, you know what to do, you even know how to do it, but why don’t you do it ? WHY ? Because you have that inner conflict, you move one step forward then two steps back, all the time you are double minded. So to free yourself from your inner conflict, here is an easy exercice that you can do :

    I want you to sit down and take a piece of paper on which you write down the following questions then you try to answer them. Ok. 

N°1 What I truely want to do, to achieve or to become ? n°2 what stops or prevents me from doing that ? What’s holding me back ? And the most important question is n°3 what’s important to me right now, to do it or not to do it ?

 

Don’t ask yourself what was important to you five years ago. You were young and you didn’t know what to do you didn’t know as much as you know right now. So ask yourself what’s important to you right now ? Try to be as clear as possible you can. This exercise may take five to ten minutes. But it will become your map, it will show you the way and put you on the railroad of change.

  Now that you know what to do, that you know what’s holding you back and that you know what’s important to you right now not ten years ago. You have to believe in yourself, you have to believe that you, you can do it. And if you don’t believe it you can’t achieve it as Henry Ford says “Whether you think you can, or you think you can't, you're right.” And here I will tell you IF you believe you can, or you believe you can’t, in both cases, YOU’RE RIGHT.

Finally, if you want to change you have to be ambitious about what you want to do or what you want to become for “ambition is BELIEVING IN YOURSELF enven if no one else in the world does“

So keep believing in yourself and be ambitious about overcoming social anxiety andIam sure you WILL make it.