How To Overcome Social Anxiety. Part3

Overcoming social anxiety is not that big problem that many people find it difficult to deal with or think it’s difficult to free themselves of it, to completely overcome that social anxiety and to become more and more social. And here are some tips to help overcoming social anxiety :

What is social anxiety ?

as we've seen in previous articles the causes of social anxiety  the causes that leads to social anxiety the causes that lead to social anxiety . Here are the last two things that may cause to suffer from social anxiey. and in the next articles we're going to talk about some practical solutions to help you overcoming social anxiety.

N°5 You’re not perfect : Are you perfect? blindly I can say "no", you aren’t. And  one of the most important things that you have to know is that neither you nor me are perfect.

We’re not Perfect and we were created to make mistakes, and being imperfect is one of the greatest gifts that we have. We can make mistakes and instead of blaming ourselves or feeling embarrassed, we can simply say IAM NOT PERFECT, Iam not an angel. That’s it, it’s that easy but the problem is that we’re in a society that magnifies the trivial mistakes that we make.

We feel ashamed just because we spilled some milk on the floor, and our parents instead of saying it’s ok and taking a towel and clean the floor they start their blaming, insulting and complaining speech over us. And what we do in order to avoide that pain, we go to our room and close on ourselves. And at the age of 4-7 years we begin to enjoy our solitude, our loneliness, since it is pain free. This little problem leads us to becoming introverted, this problem evolves and becomes what’s called social anxiety.

So whenever we encouter any tiny problem outside, and because we didn’t learn to face our problems at a young age,we run away home, go upstairs to our room, our safe castle and begin to spend hours and hours there afraid to go out. So please make mistakes, it’s your right. You are not perfect and you’ll never be perfect. And if you don’t make mistakes know that you didn’t try anything new that would help revolutionize your life, or simply help you at least overcome social anxiety and become the person you want to be.

N°6 : Lack of courage: many people know what to do to overcoming social anxiety, they know how to do it and they know the outcome they’re going to get, which they wish for, if they do it. But for some reason they don’t do it. Have you ever asked yourself that? Have you ever asked yourself why Iam doing nothing to deal with this problem? Why I let it take me over? The answer to these questions, and many others, is that you don’t have the courage to stand up for yourself and deal with your real issues.

You’re not courageous, you don’t have the guts to face your problems, you prefer to avoide them or put them aside. But the good news is that you can develop courage and become as bold as a lion. You can become courageous through doing many things such as listening to positive messages and motivational videos, listen to them again and again and again. Read some self help books, because information changes situations. And remember that you can become as bold as a lion, if you stop discounting yourself.     

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How to Overcome Social Anxiety. Part2

To overcoming social anxiety is not that big problem that many people find it difficult to deal with or think it’s difficult to free themselves of it, to completely overcome that social anxiety and to become more and more social. And here are some tips to help overcoming social anxiety :

What causes social anxiety? Part2

As we’ve seen in the previous article, some of what causes social anxiety were discounting oneself and lack of self approval. Today we’re going to talk about the other two crucial things that cause you social anxiety :

N°3 Lack of confidence: one of the definitions of confidence is doing what you fear, but the problem with you as well as others is that I know that you know how to overcome social anxiety but for some reason you don’t do anything about it. You come up with many excuses why not to do it, and the main reason behind all these excuses is FEAR. Fear of facing your fear of being around people, fear of being in social gatherings. 

You don’t have the courage to take that leap to go out and find out, you rather prefer to come up with excuses not to do it than to feel the fear and do it anyway. And remember, if you look for reasons not to do it, you’ll find them. But if you want to change who you are for the better, you can. And this is important “ You can make excuses, millions of excuses, or you can simply overcoming social anxiety but you cannot do them both.“

N°4 The comfort zone: The comfort zone is the zone of comfort and relaxation. It is your zone where you feel at ease because it is pain free. It is free from trouble and from pain, and there are two main forces that drive people, and these forces are Happiness and Pain. People tend to do things that make them feel happy and try to avoide the painful situations that they have to breakthrough, and that’s your problem as well. 

You want to overcoming social anxiety but at the same time you  want to avoide the pain that your attempt may generate, and that’s what Paulo Coelho says “ People want to change everything and, at the same time, want it all to remain the same.“ We want to change everything and we want to stay in our comfort zone as well. And remember, you can get out of your comfort zone and overcome social anxiety, or you can sit in your comfort zone and do nothing, but you cannot do them both.

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How To Overcome Social Anxiety. PART1

Overcoming social anxiety is not that big problem that many people find it difficult to deal with or think it’s difficult to free themselves of it, and to completely overcome that social anxiety and to become more and more social. And here are some tips to help overcoming social anxiety:

WHAT IS SOCIAL ANXIETY ?

Social anxiety is that feeling that comes to you whenever you are surrounded with people that you kow or you don’t know. That awkward feeling that makes you feel not at ease when you are with people. That feeling that prevents you from expressing yourself freely in front of people, to express your beliefs, values, the way you feel about something and to express your true self, or try to avoide facing people because you are somewhat AFRAID of something.

What causes social anxiety. Part1

N°1 Discounting oneself : have you ever asked yourself questions like this : why I feel that way when Iam around people ? Why Iam not rather happy when I interact with people ? Why I don't like to be with people? Honestly, the answer to all these questions is that you are looking down upon yourself, you think that you are not worthy, you think that people don’t deserve to be with you. And believe me that’s what makes you broke not only in the area of overcoming social anxiety but also in all the other areas in your life, because there is a saying that says : “what makes people broke is that they constantly keep discounting themselves.“ What makes people socially anxious and unable to interact with people is that they keep looking down on themselves. So never discount yourself anymore, you are already awesome just the way you are.

N°2 Lack of self approval : Many people hate to do many things, when they are alone, but once they see someone they either freeze and don’t do anything for they feel shy or embarrassed, or they start to behave in a different way and they start to talk in a different way. They change everything, they give up who they are and they become completely someone else and they do so just to impress people and to avoide awkward situations. 

We try to impress people because we want them to approve what we do so we feel satisfied even if we completely dislike what we are doing and because we are afraid to stand up for ourselves and do what we want not what others want. We give others more importance than we give ourselves but the moment you start feeling that you are important you'll begin to overcoming social anxiety and become more social. 

So stop trying to impress all the people and start to impress yourself, start to love yourself, unconditional love, as you are, start to enjoy yourself because if you don’t love yourself you won’t love your life and if you don’t enjoy yourself you won’t enjoy your life.

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