What Is Anxiety

What is anxiety?

If you start searching for a good or accurate definitions of anxiety I think you will get lost, because almost all the definitions you may find in the internet revolve around the idea of social anxiety and here are some examples of what is anxiety that I grabed from the internet :

  Anxiety is a general term for several disorders that cause nervousness, fear, apprehension, and worrying. These disorders affect how we feel and behave, and they can manifest real physical symptoms.

Anxiety affects our whole being. It affects how we feel, how we behave and has very real physical symptoms. It feels a bit like fear but whereas we know what we are frightened of, we often don't know what we are anxious about.

Anxiety is an unpleasant state of inner turmoil, often accompanied by nervous behavior, such as pacing back and forth, somatic complaints and rumination.

As you see here that all these definitions do not provide you with a clear idea of what anxiety is .

Now, before I give you my little definition of anxiety, I want to ask you some questions that if you answer them, my little deffinition will become easier for you to understand and grasp, ok.

Question n°1 : when do you feel anxiety,when you are alone or when you are with other people ?

Question n°2 : why anxiety goes away whenever you are alone ? Why it comes back when you are around paople?

So the idea of anxiety, or whenever we talk about what causes anxiety we mainly talk about CONNECTION with other people, it’s connection why we’re here, it’s what’s gives purpose and meaning to ourlives, that’s what is all about. So my little definition of anxiety is :

Anxiety  is the feeling caused by lack of worthiness that a person might have, it is the lack of having a strong sens of love and belonging. It is the feeling of wether you are good enough or not.

The difference between anxious people and people who are NOT anxious is that people who are not anxious have a strong sense of love and connection to other people, these are people who BELIEVE they are worthy of love and belonging, that’s they believe they are worthy.

 While on the other hand, anxious people are people who have the FEAR that they are not worthy of connection, they don’t feel that sens of worthiness. And this is the main reason behind anxiety and behind WHY people with anxiety tend to be alone with themselves all the time.


So to overcome your anxiety you have to believe that you are worthy of connection, love and belonging to a certain group of people.

here are some articles that may help you believe that you are worthy of connection:

• Change your story, change your life
• Talk to yourself in a constructive way