Overcoming Social Anxiety. Part 6

In the previous article we’ve seen that the fear of failure leads to failure and that forgiving yourself is one of the greatest gifts that you can give yourself. 

    Forgiving yourself is  not a birthday  gift that you can wait for someone else to give it to you someday.

   Overcoming social anxiety begins first with forgiving yourself. For all the mistakes and failures that you had simply forgive yourself. 

   I know that it’s difficult for many people to forgive themselves for what they did in the past. If you, too, find it difficult difficult at least you can try for trying won’t kill you.

One of the ways that can can help you forgive yourself is to talk positively to yourself. And this will teach you how to overcome social anxiety through talking to yourself in a positive way about your social anxiety. So today’s idea is :

N°6 talk to yourself in a constructive way.

      Almost everyone on this planet talk to himself either silently or overtly. But I think that there is no one who doesn’t talk to himself  in one way or the other. There are also two types of talking to oneslf. We have the destructive, or what’s called the negative, way. On the other hand, we have the constructive, or the positive, way.




   Do you know that 75% of what we say to ourselves is negative ! so how would someone overcome any challenge in their life with having that distructive inner conversation running in their minds.

Let consider having this inner conversation eventhough you know how to overcome social anxiety :“hey what are you going to do ? Don’t tell me that you are going to talk to those guys over there. Just don’t bother yourself by doing so. You know that you are a big loser, especially when dealing with people and social gatherings. Do you remember how many times you tried to talk to people and make friendships with them but you failed, you failed many times. I know that it hurts to fail talking to people and making friendships that's why I want you sit here, ALONE, and relax because Iam sure you can’t handle the pain of rejection.“

How would you overcome social anxiety carrying this inner conversation in your head ? How come ? but what if you changed this inner conversation. What do you think  will happen ? you want to know, ok. When you change your inner conversation from negative into the new positive one, the miracle begins to happen to you.

  Now let’s consider again this inner conversation after you’ve seen a group of guys :“ Hey ! you know that you can easily introduce yourself to those guys and engage with them in any conversation they are having. You can do it now even if you couldn’t do it in the past, because it is so easy and all people have friends, why not you ! If they can do it you can do it. Where is the problem. Are you afraid to fail ? Failing is not the big deal. If you do it and fail you try again and again untill you make it. You are more than able to do it. So don’t worry and go ahead to make that happen.“

Now you might ask. How can I have this type of inner conversation ? The first step is to believe that you can change your conversation. The seconde step is to sit down and take a piece of paper and write on it your old negative conversation. On the other side you start creating the conversation you believe is suitable to you. The gest of the conversation  should focus on the idea that you are an overcomer, and try to be as truthful with yourself as possible you can. Don't ever lie to yourself.
      And remember that YOU can DO whatever thing YOU want even overcoming social anxiety will become  part of the past. And bear in mind that all the change, all the glory that you are seeking COMES, AND BEGINS, FROM WITHIN.

“ life is a fight for territory, if you stop fighting for what YOU WANT, what you DON’T want will automatically take over“ bear that in mind, too.