N°5 The fear of failure leads to failure.
Are you afraid to fail ? me Iam scared to death. But let’s be serious about solving our own problems, because no body is going to do us this favor. But there is only one person who can do you this favor without any conditions and I think you know him. It’s YOU ! You are the creator of your destiny.So let me give the map of success. This map says that the first step in the road to success is you have to cross the bridge of failure before you move to the next step of being successful. So are you willing to do that? On the map there is a little advice that says “if you don’t do it that’s the real failure. “
Failure is the stepping stone to success. That everyone who’s trying to succeed in any area in life has to encounter. This is one of the rules of the success game. It’s a rule it’s not something that you can do whenever you want.
Concerning failure there is a question that needs to be answered in order to have a clear vision of what’s failure and what are it’s hidden benefits that only those who experienced it know them. And the question is why we are extremely afraid of failing ? why we don’t accept or, in other words, why we dislike failure ?
Simply the answer to this question has a lot to do with our childhood. You remember when you failed at school and your friends started to laugh at you or when you fail to do something at home and your parents started to blame you and told that your friends, as they thaught, are better than you at doing that, and deep within your little heart you agreed with them. Your little small voice said yes you’re right my parents and the good news is that Iam not going to fail so you can be satisfied.
They didn’t forgive you for that small failure, and you too you didn’t forgive yourself for that trivial situation. And from that moment on you didn’t fail in doing anything. So CONGRATULATIONS you made it, you didn’t fail.
Unfortunately that was the other face of the coin that is : you failed. You failed by not doing many of the things that you wanted to do when you were a kid or a teenager. So I have a question for you and I will give you the answer to it first. The answer is YES I have. The question is Do you have any regrets about anything you wanted to do but your fear of failing prevented you from doing it?
Let’s consider failure as a coin ok. On the first face we have I failed and on the second we have Ididn’t fail. Now let’s read starting with the first face moving to the second. If I failed I didn’t fail. And starting from the second face we have : If I didn’t fail I failed. That’s it. The fear of failure leads to failure. So fail overcoming social anxiety.
Do you know why most people hate failure ? Do you know why ? simply because thay can’t FORGIVE themselve. So you want to know how to overcome social anxiety or any challenge in your life.
The first step is try, try to overcome. Do your best with what you know. And if you fail immediately forgive yourself. Whenever you fail doing something do yourself this huge favor. FORGIVE YOURSELF. Remember that you are human. Because if your parents forgave you when you were young you wouldn’t have this problem of overcoming social anxiety, and many other problems .
So to conclude, I want you to keep this in mind. You are not a failure because you just failed many times in your life. And know that you are going to fail, not once or twice but many many time before you get what you want.
Please remember that forgiveness is a GREAT gift that you give yourself. Especially at the moment you fail to do something.
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